Unblock and Unlock Your Magnetism
Hey Gorgeous!
Welcome, welcome I am so excited to have you here, because that means you are a woman who is ready to Unblock and Unlock your MAGNETISM.
Chances are you are here because you are just not feeling as magnetic, alive, turned on, vibrant as you know you CAN be.
Let’s first talk abut what Magnetism IS and IS NOT.
Magnetism is not manipulation, and it is not trying to be chosen by a man.
It is not “getting it right” so that daddy in the sky (aka the patriarchal god) will choose me and give me what I want.
Magnetism is not performative
Magnetism, true MAGNETISM is a woman’s natural essence.
We are natural creators, we can birth a universe into existence.
IT is the connection to your pleasure and turn on - the zing of aliveness that is inside of us.
Magnetism is yes ease, but not ease because you just “are magnetic” but because you choose to find ease at every turn.
The truth is you are naturally magnetic, it has just been covered up by a lot of conditioning.
About 2500-3000 years ago the world revolved much more around the FEMININE.
For the majority of human history it was the GODDESS that was the center of society. It was HER that created life. It was the women and the Feminine that were seen for their innate power, wisdom and intuition.
Priestesses were the highest in the land and often the Queens themselves were Priestesses.
The Goddesses of life and death like Innana, Isis, Asarte were revered.
And then it changed.
You see, patriarchy is a created system. A few really insecure men got together and instead of going to therapy (or whatever the equivalent was 3000 years ago) they got in their feels and decided it was not fair that the Feminine and the Goddess were worshiped. It was not fair that women created life - so using their larget bodies they decided to use violence and control to create a new system (and religions) where the men and the masculine were centered.
And thus the Feminine was taken out of the Divine - aka the 1 male god, and the Divine taken out of the Feminine - women were no longer seen as sacred for their ability to create life.
Because men “leading and ruling” is not truly the natural order of things they had to create systems and laws to keep women “in their place”. Women were not allowed to be educated, tey could not hold money or land.
Women were bought and sold via marriage to strengthen men’s positions.
Religion was used to control and oppress even more.
Throughout the past 2000 years especially there have been multiple times throughout history where women have not been safe being Magnetic - the most intense period being The Witch Trials. Between the 1400-1775 where thousands (some sources say tens of thousands) of women and some men were accused of witch craft. They were then usually tortured and often killed.
All of this to say .
The blocks to your Magnetism are not wrong but they have in fact kept women safe throughout the past 2000 years.
As we dive into what the common blocks are, I want you to have such compassion for yourself.
The other important thing to remember is that blocking your magnetism is NORMAL, and in fact staying in your Magnetism is a practice.
Ok let’s dive in!
Here are some of the most common things that block your Magnetism:
Your Mindset - we all know that what we think about holds so much power for what we are creating in our lives. And so many of us have spent the majority of our lives living in our heads over identifying with being the one who “knows” what to do. You have gone through a lot in your life and your mind is just trying to protect you - its job is to keep you alive and to look for problems. So when you are in doubt, when you are over thinking, when you are only seeing what could go wrong - that is your mind trying to protect you.
Your nervous system is dysregulated. Our nervous system needs to be operating from a space of safety in order to be magnetic, but chances are you were never taught how to bring your nervous system into a sense of safety and being regulated. Any and all trauma and dysregulation is stored in our bodies until we do the somatic work to release it. My favorite was to regulate my nervous system is through breathwork.
You are afraid of pleasure or pleasure feels unsafe for you. This goes back to your nervous system and this is also more than likely related to religious conditioning. We were taught that pleasure was not only wrong but shameful. Shame is the heaviest emotion and keeps women really frozen and shut down. When you are afraid to have or experience pleasure, when you think if you have too much something bad will happen you will shut down your connection to pleasure every single time.
You don’t even know your DESIRES. Being Magnetic is about being led by your desires, but we have been told that our desires are too much and therefore we were told from a young age to shut down our desires. If you asked 100 women what they truly desired the majority would have no idea! They could tell you what they don’t want all day long. Owning and standing in your desires is a skill, you can learn how to do it.
The sisterhood wound. The Feminine is meant to be in community, in fact you can not heal your Feminine alone - it is impossible. And yet for the past 500 years especially other women have been our competition. Competing for husbands - which was the only way to secure safety and power for a woman. It was women who turned each other in during the witch trials so not to be seen as a witch yourself. Not to mention any and all bad experiences you have had with other women. But being Magnetic requires you to be in a community of women who are also magnetic!
The Worthiness Wound - this bitch comes straight from the patriarchy. It has been ingrained in us and passed down for 2000 years that men were the gold standard and women…..they were……worth - less than men. This one is deep and when you have not healed it you will easily block your magnetism and your power because you do not feel worthy of having what you want.
You probably have one or many of these! And again - this is where we get to bring in so much compassion because you have shut your magnetism down in order to protect yourself.
So how do you begin to UNBLOCK your Magnetism?
Well let’s dive in to the core foundations of The Magnetic Woman.
First and the thing that you can always come back to is mindset and emotional alchemy! This is where you regulate your nervous system, where you try on different identities and archetypes, and when you create a sense of safety while thriving. Your mindset is equally important - the stories that you are telling yourself on a regular basis are creating your lived reality. Which means if you do not like what you see around you YOU GET TO CHANGE IT.
Regulating your nervous system and upgrading your mindset go hand in hand. This is where most people fall off course is they try and mantra their way out of their nervous system feeling unsafe, when what you really need is to regulate your nervous system and create safety for whatever new belief you are trying to step into.
Next is getting in touch with your desires. If you feel completely blocked with your desires you can start with substituting “want” or even “need” with “DESIRE. So instead of saying “I really want/need coffee” Try “I desire some coffee”. This will help you just get comfortable with using the word desire.
I also encourage my clients to create a desire list, write everything down from dark chocolate to taking a year off and traveling the world. Write it ALL down.
The best part about desires is that you can not mess it up, you can not get it wrong.
Let’s move on to PLEASURE - pleasure is your power source and how you plug in to your Feminine energy and power.
The beauty of pleasure is that anything and everything can be pleasurable. One of the powers of The Magnetic Woman is being able to take any and all situations and find the pleasure in them.
The quickest way to connect to pleasure is through your sensuality which is just engaging your senses. Think about what it is like to really savor a bite of food or a sip of coffee. Tasting every flavor, feeling the temperature, allowing the flavors to rush all over you.
Pleasure drops you in to your body and into the present moment.
The most annoying saying is that it is about the journey not the destination. And this could not be more true when it comes to PLEASURE - because when you get to the destination you are going to have different or larger desires. So you are always going to be in a space where you are wanting more - so you might as well enjoy the journey.
Rituals and Practices are the cornerstone of The Magnetic Woman I see my spiritual path of the Sacred Sexual Priestess the woman who sees pleasure AS her spiritual practice.
Pleasure based practices and rituals are like your regular Magnetic Woman workout.
It is how you stay connected to your power, it is how you come back to your power.
This is why inside of The Magnetic Woman Legacy there is a pleasure practice calendar to take the guess work out of your pleasure.