I was having a conversation with a woman recently who said something that I used to say, and I hear women say ALL. THE. TIME.
To me this belief, and statement is one of the most damaging to hold for both you and your partner.
She said “He couldn’t really GIVE me an orgasm”.
Now on the surface you may think - Lauren what is wrong with that? Sounds like he wasn’t that great in bed.
But here is the thing, my love.
ANOTHER PERSON IS NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR PLEASURE
Women as a whole are under and uneducated about your bodies, your pleasure and your orgasm. Yes for the past oh let’s round up and say 4000 years the system, the culture and the major religious influences have made it wrong, bad, dirty and sinful for a woman to be embodied, to be sensually alive and to be deeply connected to their sexual power.
The narrative that we have all been told is that men KNOW how to please a woman - “a good mad” at least. So women aren’t taught or told about their bodies and the magic available to them, and we aren’t encouraged and often times shamed or punished for exploring our own pleasure.
Then men are assumed to just KNOW how to bring pleasure to a woman - yet everything that they consume, movies, pop culture and porn is not female pleasure centered.
This is a recipe for disaster - and in fact it is why the majority of women are walking around under fucked, disconnected and with a DAP yes I mean Dry Ass Pussy.
When you put your pleasure in the hands of someone else you put your power in the hands of someone else. Every woman’s boy is different so this notion that “He couldn’t give me an orgasm” is one of the msot disempowering statements and beliefs that you can have.
The reality is…..
YOU don’t know what brings you to orgasms OR you didn’t ask for it.
It doesn’t matter if this is a 1 night stand or a partner that you have had for 40 years. YOU have to make your pleasure a priority but the only way to do that is if your pleasure and orgasm are a priority to you.
And let’s face it when we rely on someone else to be the SOURCE of pleasure and orgasm we put unnecessary pressure on the connection and the other person, and it typically ends in you also putting your worthiness, confidence and power in the hands of someone else.
The KEY to everything that you want in life - and most importantly a fulfilling, passionate relationship is to heal, embrace and celebrate your sexual power. This is the KEY to your worthiness and the connection to your personal power.
But because you haven’t had the education, tools or even practices to help YOU own your pleasure, know your orgasm and empower yourself to make it a priority in every area of your life.
This is why in The Magnetic Woman Membership I give you the education, tools and practices to heal, embrace and celebrate your sexuality. And when you enroll this month you become an OG (Original Goddess) which locks in your membership pricing so you will never pay more, and gives you first access to everything that I do and the best pricing fro any course, bundle or program!
The women who do the annual membership will get my annual Most Desirable Woman in the Room Bundle ($7500 value) for FREE.
Taking back ownership of your pleasure and empowering yourself to know your body and be able to ask for what you want in and out of the bedroom is the most loving thing that you can do for yourself and everyone around you.
xx
Lauren